“Deal With” vs “Dwell On”
How do you deal with what you believe is a problem? Do you
dwell on the issue and continue to think in circles? That’s
obsessing vs problem solving.
What process, skills, do you use to evaluate any situation so
you can make a wise decision? Have you gathered all the facts
that are available to you about the situation/event?
Do you look at this event/situation with clear thinking in the
present moment? A similar situation may have happened in the
past and you are thinking the results will be the same this
time. Just because something happened in the past does not
necessarily mean it will happen again this time.
Use your Cognitive-Behavioral skills. Gather facts using
Reflect and Ask method. Learn to Problem Solve vs assuming.
Learn to be calm, confident and peaceful to achieve the results
you think are most helpful.
Remember: You have a say in this decision. Use appropriate and
helpful skills to reach a factual and wise solution.