“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent
of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets
Anger is a helpful emotion if used in a healthy way. Anger
alerts me that something is amiss. Ask yourself, “What am I
telling myself that is creating this feeling of anger?” No one
can make you angry. We know that thoughts come before feelings
and anger is a feeling.
Take a deep breath – step back – look at the situation with a
clearer view of the events. Ask: “What part did I play in this
event? What can I do that might be helpful in this situation?
What am I thinking my gain may be in behaving rudely and
blaming? What might my gain be if I change my behavior and
acknowledge my part of the event?” Knowing that everything I
think is based on my interpretation of the event.
Are you willing to do anything to create a more problem solving
situation vs arguing and blaming? Show me the level of your
anger and I can tell you the depth of your fear. What is your
Do you know how to “problem solve” effectively? That is a skill
that all humans need to live healthier and happier. Are you
willing to learn skills to stop creating so much chaos in your
life? When are you willing to begin the process of changing
yourself – knowing you can change only you – no one else….
The key is to learn the Skills to interpret any event with
logical thinking as you stay in the present moment and problem
solve. Learning how to Communicate Effectively, Problem Solve,
and Team Play are all Skills that are needed in everyday life to
be calm, confident and peaceful.
Learn Cognitive-Behavioral Skills and use them daily to make the
changes that will create the life you want. A life of calmness,
confidence and peace.
Remember: You get to decide how you Think – feel – Behave.
Thoughts lead to feelings that lead to Behaviors.
CHANGING IS A CHOICE.