“Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do
next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the
answers.” Denis Waitley
When we spend our time and energy focused on past events and
perceive hurts, we are wasting mental, emotional and physical
energy because we can do nothing about the past. Imagine your
“past” as a filing cabinet. Every time you dwell on past
events, you are scrambling through old files that you cannot
Before we leave the filing cabinet, let’s quickly scan though
the files and ask if there are old hurts that we may be able to
resolve in the current time. If yes – then do what you think
will help you move forward in a beneficial way.
Have you clearly defined what are the present issues or problems
to be solved? Do you have a format or system to problem solve?
Do you know how to communicate effectively with yourself and
with others, so the real issues are recognized and acknowledged?
Sometimes we focus on old “stuff” to avoid dealing with current
concerns. Perhaps the avoidance is created by fear of more pain
or answers that we don’t want to hear.
How would your life be different if you acknowledged your past
as “the past” and then made a commitment to deal with current
Learn the Cognitive Behavioral skills to interpret any event
with logical thinking as you stay in the present moment and
solve each problem/issue.
Remember: Only you can decide if you want the success that
comes with living in the present moment and solving problems in