Life Skills Unlimited
Lisa H. Lang, Ph.D.

110 Red Oak Lane
Flower Mound, TX 75028

Thoughts lead to
Feelings lead to

"I think, therefore I feel."


Licensed Professional Counselor
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist

This is a very trying time for all. Just listen to the news for

a few minutes and fear comes forward. All those things we are

telling ourselves about what is going to happen to us. Some

news is truth and some is fear mongering. However, we can learn

to stop and logically evaluate the facts that are available. I

would like the news people to tell us what they know as facts

and not their opinion. Listen to me – tell me facts.

Listening to oneself is an important part of being able to

listen to others. When I listen to you, I am saying you are

important to me in some way. When I STOP and listen to what I

am telling myself, I am acknowledging that I believe in my value

(my worth).

When I tell myself negative things about me, I will

automatically interpret what others are saying to me as

negative. I am more likely to buy into what others are saying

vs evaluating the facts. I am prone to lecturing the other

person so they will see things my way and I will feel safer.

Lecturing leads to anger if the other person does not follow our

instructions. Show me the level of your anger and I can tell

you the depth of your fear. There is a lot of fear in our world


Stop: Listen to yourself without judgment and then you can hear

others more accurately.

Remember: Survival is the bottom rung on the ladder of life - -

to survive, we have to believe we have Safety - - to have

safety, we have to believe we have Control.

With the fears surrounding us, we have doubts about our ability

to control our lives. Let’s learn to listen to what we are

telling ourselves and others. In threatening times, we can be

kind or we can be cruel to ourselves or others. Separate out

what you know to be Facts and then ask: What can I do to make

the situation healthier and more productive? Maybe I can do

nothing at the moment. Maybe my choice is to change my view (my

way of thinking) of what is happening at this moment in time.

We operate off Images – not words. Use your imagery to be

productive during this troublesome time. Use it to appreciate

yourself and your accomplishments or your plans. Move forward

with your thoughts. Listen to yourself in a positive and

respectful way and then you will be able to respectfully listen

to others.

If you do not know how to live your life more factually, then

learn Cognitive-Behavioral Skills and use them daily to make the

changes that will create the life you want for yourself and your

loved ones. A life of calmness, confidence and peace.

Remember: You get to decide how you Think – feel – Behave.

Thoughts lead to feelings that lead to Behaviors.


Call: 972-724-0748
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Life Skills Unlimited
110 Red Oak Lane
Flower Mound, TX 75028

© 2015 Life Skills Unlimited & Dr. Lisa H. Lang, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Lisa H. Lang Ph.D. is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) & marriage and family therapist (LMFT) located in Flower Mound, TX with over 25 years’ experience. She is a Certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapist and life coach offering psychotherapy, hypnosis, and other solutions to those seeking counseling. Dr. Lang is conveniently located to residents of Flower Mound, Argyle, Carrollton, Coppell, Corinth, Denton, Grapevine, Hickory Creek, Lake Dallas, Lewisville, Little Elm, Southlake, The Colony and the Dallas/Fort Worth area.

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