When we spend our time and energy focused on past events and perceived hurts, we are wasting mental, emotion and physical energy because we can do nothing about the past.
Imagine your “past” as a filing cabinet. Now, every time you dwell on past events, you are scrambling thru old files that you cannot change.
Before we leave the filing cabinet, let’s quickly scan thru the files and ask if there are old hurts that we may be able to resolve in the current time. If yes – then do what you think will help you move forward (not willfully hurting others).
How would your life be different if you acknowledged your past as “the past” and then made a commitment to deal with current issues? Have you clearly defined what are the present issues or problems to be solved?
Do you have a format or system to problem solve? Do you know how to communicate effectively with yourself and with others so the real issues are recognized and acknowledged?
Sometimes we focus on old “stuff” to avoid dealing with current concerns. Perhaps the avoidance is created by fear of more pain or answers that we don’t want to hear.
Remember: You get to decide how you Think, feel and Behave.
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