“Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.” Emily Post
What is your basic belief about people? Do you think humans are basically kind or just a bunch of jerks? How do you use that basic belief to live your life on a daily basis?
How do you manage your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors when you allow yourself to become frustrated with someone’s behavior? Do you stop and think through the event and ask: “What is the main event in this situation?” “What did that person actually do?” “What did I do?” “What could I have done differently?” That does not mean you are responsible for the other person’s behavior. You are accountable only for your actions.
Do you know how to manage stress and sometimes simply accept frustration and distress? Perhaps there was nothing you could have done differently.
Remember: Self-control, determination, and resilience is your key to self-regulation. Learn the Skills to: Communicate Effectively, Problem Solve, and Team Play. Cognitive Behavioral skills to deal with the stress so you can be kind and calm with your responses. Skills that we all need to live healthier and happier.
Kindness, politeness, manners do not cost a penny; rudeness, offensiveness, nastiness will cost you a lot.
Remember: You get to decide how you Think – feel – Behave.
Thoughts lead to feelings that lead to Behaviors.
CHANGING IS A CHOICE.
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