You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, and the only way, it does not exist. Friedrich Nietzsche

Relationships are a sense of connectedness with others. These connections may be with a personal partner, a family member, a work member or anyone. We have some commonality with that person. In any relationship we give a part of ourselves and expect something from the other person.

In any relationship it is important to remember to respect, nurture and take care of yourself first. You may define what that means – what actions do you use to take care of yourself. When you care for yourself you will be able to give directly, clearly and kindly to others. You will be able to give in a respectful manner – this is not self-absorbed – it is being kind to self and to others. Taking care of self removes the resentment, regret, anger and frustration from the relationship.

When you refuse to take care of yourself this leads to resenting self and others. You begin to believe your value is based on their opinion of you. Remember – “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt.

You may begin by defining and separating your “needs” vs “wants” and how you are expecting the other person to fulfill those needs or wants. Use clear communication – be kindly direct – so there is no misunderstanding. The other person may do the same. Now you both will have a pathway to understanding vs misunderstanding.

This kind of connectedness will require using skills of effective communication. It may also require changing your environment to help you maintain your behavior modification.

Cognitive Behavioral therapy is effective for learning self-appreciation and how to clarify your needs and expectations and willingness to hear the other person.

Learn Cognitive Behavioral Skills to:
Communicate Effectively
Problem Solve
Team Play/Work