Anger is a strong human emotion/experience that helps and betrays us. It is helpful when we use it logically to express emotions that are beneficial. It is harmful when we use it to attempt to control others.
Anger is an accurate signal of real problems in a person’s life.
We can learn to express anger in moderation so there is no loss of control. The goal is to solve problems, not just express anger. Clearly state your anger in ways that others can understand.
Anger is temporary and can be relinquished when an issue is resolved. Unless you have used the anger to reject or punish someone; if so, you have created a debate that will continue with many unhealthy words, actions, and emotions that are unhealthy and unhelpful.
Learn to manage your anger by paying attention to your thoughts, emotions and actions. For example, what happens with your eyes, mouth, hands, etc.
Now, imagine using your anger in a helpful way and being respectful of self and others. Ask questions that will begin the problem-solving vs arguing. This may seem uncomfortable at first; however, you will train your thinking/brain to be a problem-solver vs an arguer. Arguing is a waste of time and brain cells.
Be smart – be wise. Move toward creating happiness and productivity for you and for others. You are not responsible for others; however, consider yourself as a representative of peace and progress. You are someone who can make a difference.
Stop – Think Clearly – Problem Solve.
Learn Cognitive Behavioral Skills to:
Communicate Effectively
Problem Solve
Team Play/Work