Humans are naturally self-obsessed, self-judging, and other self-observations and contradictions. We think about how we present to others and if we have value in their eyes. Do we measure up to their expectations? Often, we blame ourselves or attempt to create a public image that is difficult to maintain.
Perfectionists are notably vulnerable to being hard on themselves. Becoming aware of your thinking and actions is a beginning step to self-acceptance and making the changes that you choose.
You might ask yourself: Do I beat myself up over small mistakes that have insignificant consequences. And, then I continue to criticize myself after I have corrected the mistake. Other people may be entitled to mistakes; however, I believe I am not. Do I continually put my to-do list aside to take care of projects for others? And, then I blame myself if other people criticize me because I did not live up their expectations. Do I do the extra things for others that perhaps they could do for themselves? You are the go-to person when someone has a big project. You are the “we can count on you” person. [Hint: Learn to say, “I wish I could help you; however, I am very busy and will have to pass on this one.”
Are you seeing yourself as a failure and forget to acknowledge all the things you do and your many accomplishments.
How do you think your life would be different if you began acknowledging and accepting your many helpful and caring contributions to self, family, friends, and associates? Self-appreciation is a major part of awareness and understanding of self and others. “To thine own self be true.”
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