Before you make a decision and determine how this decision will affect your and your partner’s lives, pause and consider the logic of what you are telling yourself. Think of this decision as being significant –- write the pluses and the minuses and weigh the outcome. Very simple and complicated because we frequently use our emotions to make this determination. Stop and consider that your feelings are a result of your thinking. Are you thinking logically? Are you considering how this decision will affect your life in short and long terms?

Life is filled with choices. You may be considering having an affair or are currently having an affair. Ask: How does this affect me, my partner and possibly my children and other family members. Affairs are only one example of decisions we make that affects the lives of many people. Some decisions have little influence on our lives and others have extreme impact on our lives. What significance do you believe your decision will have on others? We are not in this world alone.

You may blame circumstances or someone else for your current situation; however, you had choices all along this journey. We know that thoughts lead to feeling and that leads to outward behaviors. External forces, like people or situations are not the catalyst for our behaviors –- it is the perceptions we have of ourselves.

You may want to take a look at how you think and feel about yourself. Do you perceive yourself as valuable to self and others? What do you believe you contribute to your world? Remember — the deceptions we tell ourselves are the remains of our past that we have not dealt with and settled within our own mind. Stop and take a current and clear look at what you are telling yourself. Now you may begin to make the changes that will support you in believing in your value/your worth.

Learn Cognitive Behavioral Skills to:
Communicate Effectively
Problem Solve
Team Play/Work